To avoid ending up with 24 picture frames, it’s a great idea to provide your wedding guests with information about what type of present you’d like. The majority of guests will expect to purchase a gift and will appreciate you letting them know what you’d actually like, so don’t feel embarrassed about asking for wedding gifts.
It’s a good idea to send information about wedding gifts out with your wedding invitations; this will mean guests don’t need to contact you to ask about what to get and gives them plenty of time to arrange your present.
Wedding gift ideas
Wedding gifts usually fall into one of the following categories:
- A wedding gift list – administered by a high street store or a specialist company that organises wedding or honeymoon gifts. You will need to provide guests with information about how to make a purchase.
- Money or vouchers – to use to help fund a honeymoon, holiday or perhaps a project for your home.
- Charity donations – if you’re lucky enough to already have everything or feel passionately about a specific cause.
- A gift chosen or made by the guest.
Asking for money
It is completely acceptable to ask for money, donations via a website or vouchers, but you’re likely to get a better response if you describe what your guests are contributing money towards. Be clear about what you’d like to buy/do and what it will mean to you.
Wording for wedding gifts
Whatever type of wedding gift you are asking for, it’s polite to emphasise that purchasing a gift is optional and the most important thing is that guests share your day with you (even if you don’t mean it!!). Examples of wording which expresses this sentiment (but then goes on to ask for a gift!) are:
The biggest gift to us is your attendance and celebration of our marriage. However, if you would like to purchase a gift, we have a list at …..
We don’t expect gifts, just a great day with our family and friends. However if you would like to get us anything …..
If you would like to give us a gift, we would be grateful for …..
Poems for requesting wedding gifts are increasingly popular and can often be customised to mention what gift you would like:
We have lived together for quite a while
we have our pots and pans.
If you were thinking of giving a gift
we hope you understand.
We do not wish to be rude
but would just like to say,
some money towards our honeymoon
would help us on our way.
Then while we’re relaxing on the beach
with a drink or two,
we will raise our glass
knowing it was all down to you!
We’ve been together for a few years now!
We have pots and pans and linen and towels;
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
So instead of gifts, we suggest this to you;
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running;
What we would really appreciate is simply money;
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same!
Your presence at our wedding
is present enough,
So don’t worry about what to buy,
as we have plenty of stuff!!
However, if you were thinking of giving us a gift
to help us on our way,
a gift of a voucher for B&Q
would really make our day.
No gifts please!
There will be some guests who don’t feel comfortable not buying a gift, so if you don’t want any gifts consider asking for charity donations or give your guests another option. A recent customer of The Leaf Press said to guests that gifts were really not necessary and instead they would like guests to take photos at the wedding and send them a memory stick with the photos on.
If you would like advice about ways to incorporate requests about wedding gifts with your wedding invitations, please don’t hesitate to contact The Leaf Press.